In Our Corner

Hilary Fenske

What to say (or do) when parents abuse their children in public

·         “She seems to be trying your patience.”

·         “Is he tired? Does he need a nap?”

·         “He has beautiful (eyes).”  To get the parent in a more positive mood.

·         “My child used to get upset like that.”

·         “Children can wear you out, can’t they?  Is there anything I can do to help?”

·         Strike up a conversation with the adult.  See if you can re-direct his/her attention away from the child.

·         Sympathize with the parents, i.e. “Isn’t it amazing how children think they can get what they want by kicking and screaming?”

·         “My daughter behaves like that sometimes, and I…”

·         If you are concerned about the physical safety of the child, alert the store manager.

·         Diverse the child’s attention (if she is misbehaving), by talking to her.

·         Praise the child and/ or the parent at the first opportunity.

·         If the child is in danger, offer assistance.  For example, if the child was left unattended in a grocery store cart, go stand by the child until the parent returns.

·         If you have authority over the parent say, “This is a safe environment for children.  We do not spank here.”

·         Find something positive to say about the child to the parent. “Your child is beautiful,” or “What pretty hair she has.”

·         “Looks like your little boy is giving you a hard time, “Hoping to relieve some tensions and perhaps open up some communication.

For more information or to request a presentation on a domestic violence topic, please contact us at (605) 224-0256 or through our website at www.missourishores.com. 

Missouri Shores Domestic Violence Center

(A United Way participating Agency)

24 Hour Crisis Hotline: (605) 224-7187

                                                             Or toll free: 1-800-696-7187

Office Phone (605)224-0256

E-mail: domestic@missourishores.com